The Conn3ction Coach

  This past month, I learned some new lessons and new secrets about abundance that have forever changed how I think about money, receiving, giving, and all that is available to me. In the spirit of abundance, I want to share this knowledge with you so that you too can come into more : more money, more time, more freedom, more trust, more love.   I thought I knew a lot about abundance. I’ve known about the Law of Attraction for over a decade, I’ve been making vision boards and using affirmations and visualizations for years. Those are the things that come to mind for most people when they think about abundance and manifestation, and that is usually what is taught in most manifestation and abundance courses and teachings.   What I learned this past month is that manifesting doesn’t stop with the visualizations and affirmations. It doesn’t even stop once what you’ve been manifesting comes into fruition, which was quite surprising to me! Instead, my teacher explained ...

      Take a moment to close your eyes and think back to a time when you were a small child, to a time when you felt really upset. If you can't recall a specific time, just imagine one. In this memory, how did your small self cope with feeling upset?       Did you head to the pantry to grab a snack to numb the pain? Did you head to your room to vigorously clean up your toys, burying yourself in work? Did you pour yourself a stiff glass of kool-aid? How about turn on the tv to mindlessly watch cartoons? Maybe you went on a shopping spree at toys-r-us to help you forget about the upsetting incident?      In all likelihood, none of these examples above resonate, because most of us as children, and most kids in general express their emotions and express them in big ways: they cry, they scream, they throw tantrums! And while I was using some humor with those previous examples, that IS how most of us deal with our emotions as adults. In fact, ...

      A few weeks ago, I got back from my wedding and honeymoon in Hawaii. It was an amazing experience and adventure in so  many ways, and looking back I realize what a privilege it was to have this incredible opportunity.       I could write an entire blog about my trip, but as I've come back and gotten back in my routine, there's this one thing that I really miss, and I've realized it's just not quite the same when we're in our normal environment, moving through our daily routines.       At the place where we stayed (the Sheraton Kauai... 10/10 recommend!), we spent a lot of time in the pool area. This is just a side note, but it wasn't just a pool area. It was by the pool which faced the beach and the Pacific ocean. It was there we would witness breathtaking sunrises, sunsets, and would often watch sea lions swim right up on the beach! But again, that's an aside from this month's topic.       In addition...

 "I am stupid." That's not a belief you'd expect someone with a list of academic achievements as long as I have to believe about themselves. But I did.  I'm a voracious reader, have been asking for homework since second grade (nerd alert), am a law school graduate and a member of the bar, and could fill at 3 pages of a resume with my academic accolades. Yet, I still believed I was stupid.  How do I know? My newest healing certification (ThetaHealing®) is designed to excavate limiting beliefs from the subconscious, remove them, and replace those beliefs with how you want  to feel instead. Often times, we aren't even aware of the exact subconscious beliefs we're holding, and that's exactly how "I am stupid" was for me.  In the training, we practiced on each other, and when asked for something I wanted help with, I expressed the desire to not feel nervous when speaking in front of people. After doing some digging, we figured out I indeed believe...

I recently heard Glennon Doyle interview Brandi Carlile on her We Can Do Hard Things  podcast. Glennon had a question for Brandi about a song on her newest Album In These Silent Days . The song is "Mama Werewolf", and she had a specific question about the following lyrics: "If my good intentions go running wild If I cause you pain, my own sweet child Won't you promise me you'll be the one My silver bullet in the gun" Glennon wanted to know if the song and these specific lyrics were a metaphor about ending trauma in your family of origin. Specifically she asked, "So are you saying there that if you do any of the hurtful shit that your family of origin passed down, that you want your kid to be the one to snuff it out of you, whatever it takes?"  Brandi said yes, yes exactly. The silver bullet doesn't kill the wolf, what it does is ends the curse of the wolf being the werewolf, and mama werewolf is asking the child to do that... end the curse if t...

  A few weeks ago, I was talking to one of my mentors about some of the tougher things I’ve been through in life. At one point she paused and asked, “Do you ever rage?” I responded with something along the lines of “huh?”.   “Yeah,” she said, “do you ever get really angry and just allow yourself to let it out and rage? Smash plates, scream into a pillow, etc.?” I laughed and responded, “Of course not.”   She also knows this about me: I was raised by a mom and grandmother who were true Southern ladies. Growing up I wasn’t allowed (or was strongly encouraged not to) raise my voice, disagree, or even have an unpleasant look on my face out in public. My mom and grandmother wanted me to act like a lady, and anything considered unladylike was met with a stern, “Laura Lee, that’s not polite.” Considering the way I was raised and conditioned, raging was out of the question.   Teaching clients how to develop a better relationship with their emotions is a fundament...

Work ethic: this was a family value in the Gilliland household. My parents modeled hard work ethics for me throughout my childhood growing up, and I think I’ve carried the family value on. In fact, it caught on for me pretty early.  I won’t deny that I’ve been blessed with some talents and gifts, but I will say without hesitation that I’ve never been the best at anything naturally. Anything I’ve accomplished, I’ve had to work hard for it. Whether it meant staying up past my bedtime to earn an A on a math test in high school, or spending hours out in our driveway hitting shot after shot so I could contribute a few points for my team when it was game day, I have always been willing to put in the work to make things happen.  This trend continued as a young adult. I did well in college, but I definitely put in a LOT of extra time prepping for the LSAT to get a score that would allow me to get into a decent law school. And once I got to law school, I realized the material didn’t co...